Why Self-Love Matters | Sophrosyne


You owe yourself the love you give so freely to others. Take a moment to reflect on everything at a standstill. Realign yourself to appreciate you, flaws and all.


Forget everything else in the universe and see yourself for the first time, in a long time.

All About Self-Love, Words by Jenn Hanft



Sometimes we forget to set time aside for ourselves. We worry so much and so consistently over everything else that we sometimes lose ourself amongst it all. It’s important to remember that we come first. Self-love is important. Our mind, body, and health should be appreciated; thus allowing us to give more, see more, and be more. Don’t lose focus on the things that matter most. Cut out the toxic, dead weight. Pay attention to your needs and listen to your body. Rely on what matters.  Life, believe it or not, allows us to really see what truly is significant and what isn’t. We may fall privy to rose colored glasses, but the true colors will show. We will learn, grow, and move forward.


You are your own worst enemy and greatest critic. But, what you fail to remember is that you are also your biggest fan. Don’t lose sight in the power that is in your hands. Empower yourself to exude the confidence that you have within. Take risks, chase dreams, and build empires. Whatever you want is yours for the taking, but you need to push yourself to do it. To go that distance. A support system is a great stepping stone, but you need to push the weight yourself. Climb new heights, push your limits, and just believe in yourself. Self-love is a driving force. With it, you’ll go far.


We as humans look to each other for support and inspiration. Inspire others to be their best selves. Better yet, inspire yourself. Find your passion and pursue it whole-heartedly with every ounce of love in your body. Feed the fire. Set a goal and accomplish it. Cross things off your list. Self-love is your foundation and the core of your journey. Utilize it to travel new waters, learn new material, and seek new adventures.

why is self-love so important?

In order to love, you must first love yourself. Self-appreciation goes a long way and once you love yourself in every capacity, everything else will fall into place. I strongly believe that we are all wholes. Whoever said that we are halves finding another to be whole is wrong in my book. We need to stop believing that we are incomplete without a partner. It hurts our self-esteem and lowers our ability to see the beauty in self-love. Without loving ourselves and believing we are already complete, it makes it difficult to chase dreams, to pour love into something other than us. Why? Because we’re so focused on finding ways to fill a void that we have rather than to do something out of love and full of love.

We are essentially in it for ourselves and without a strong foundation, there will always be a feeling of despair or hopelessness. Especially when it comes to a relationship (whether it be friend, partner, or whatever). The other person is not a crutch to hold us together. We should not need to rely and depend on someone else to feel whole. That mentality leads us to think that we are less than what we are when the relationship breaks. Please remember that each person in your life adds value onto what you already have.

Once you are content and happy with yourself, you can move the focus onto other things. If you are not satisfied with where you are, you may think that everything else is the issue which can result in some major damage. I’ve been there and it is not fun cleaning up the mess.

My biggest advice to you is to remember to breathe. Listen to your body and don’t overwork yourself. Always carve out some “me time” to relax and focus on things that make you happy. Don’t chomp off more than you can chew. Take things one at a time so you don’t burn out. Rest is key. Shove away the doubt. Fall? Get right back up. Don’t let others get to you and do not compare your life/progress to anyone else. We are all different and going through different things. Channel your energy into something beneficial, i.e. yoga, meditate, read, etc. Lastly, don’t ever be afraid to ask for help or support. Sometimes things may get too tough for you to handle on your own. It’s important to never bottle things up and feel as though you are alone. You’re not.

What are your thoughts on self-love?

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  • Samantha Mariko
    December 6, 2017

    I definitely used to find myself blaming others or situations because I still had not accepted myself 100%. It really is hard to get there, but for me the process has been worthwhile 🙂 I love these posts dedicated to self love, always so inspiring!

  • Sharon Wu
    December 6, 2017

    Self-love is so important babe, I agree! I knew I had to read this one when I saw your IG post this morning. I have to admit that sometimes I find myself criticizing myself more than loving myself, but this year I’ve definitely put more effort into practicing self-love because as you said, you can’t really love others before you learn to really love yourself first! I’ve been doing things like going to the gym to get my exercise in, eating more plant-based foods, and resting when I feel tired. Small things like that even will add up especially in a busy lifestyle. Thanks for sharing your perspective babe! xo, sharon


  • Kimmie
    December 6, 2017

    I needed to read this today. Thank you so much for sharing!
    xo Kimmie

  • Rachael Thomas
    December 6, 2017

    This is a beautiful message, and one that so many of us need to work on! I really need to learn to criticize myself less, and breathe!

  • Christina
    December 6, 2017

    These photos are absolutely stunning and the message was just brilliant as well. This is all still a work in progress for me.

  • Iliana Garcia
    December 6, 2017

    I 100% agree! I feel like the “Love yourself” is said so lightly but carries so much weight. I’m believer that you cannot love someone else until you learn how to love yourself.

    Thank you for putting this out in the universe as I’m sure more than one person needed it.

    Iliana | http://www.sophisticatedfashionista.com

  • Azanique
    December 7, 2017

    I love this post girl! Self-love is so important especially these days with the rise of social media and how we compare ourselves to people we don’t know.

    -xo, Azanique | http://www.lotsofsass.com

  • Kileen
    December 7, 2017

    Aw this is such a great post girl! I think self love is so, so important. Especially since having kids, I have seen how important it is to have self love, because it not only affects ourselves, but it affects other people. Definitely a journey, but a much needed one!

    cute & little

  • Nataly
    December 7, 2017

    Thank you so much for sharing! I struggle with this a lot and comparing myself to others especially lately! I needed to read this.

  • Stephanie
    December 7, 2017

    you have no idea how badly I needed to read this today. I have been feeling somewhat worthless lately and depleted. But this was just the confidence boost that I needed and the reminder that I do have to love myself first before I can express true love to anyone else. Thank you for sharing.

  • KatWalkSF
    December 7, 2017

    Such an important topic!

  • Stephanie
    December 7, 2017

    Self love is so important! Loved reading your post!

    xo, Steph

  • Candace
    December 8, 2017

    I definitely take pride in my “me” time and definitely don’t let anyone get in the way of it either. I’m the kind of person that gets really grumpy if I don’t get it, so I definitely agree with everything you said here!

  • Bryanna
    December 12, 2017

    Love this! Self love is the root of everything, and I really like how you broke it down: to focus, empower, and inspire. It’s hard to come by this, especially via social media. Everyone is so caught up in what other people doing, and they forget to be their true self. With blogging, this can almost be harder to overcome. Thanks so much for posting this. You have inspired me to really focus on myself and helping empower others.

    xoxo Bryanna | Coming in Clutch

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