Mind Over Matter: If you don’t mind, they don’t matter.
I’ve learned the hard way that trying to please everyone is not only an almost impossible task, it’s also super stressful and not worth the pain. Besides learning to pick and choose your battles, you should have the confidence in yourself to be okay with certain decisions. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
If you don’t already know, you can’t make everyone happy. So why put yourself through the extra torment and just focus on the people and things that matter most? Throw away the constant worry of trying to please everyone and spend more time being happy with yourself. If you recall from my previous post, you have to be OK with who you are, even if that means that someone else isn’t. All of this lies in your mind. Once you put yourself in the right mentality, things will get a little brighter.
The next crucial thing is figuring out what things matter. Emphasis on matter. Knit picking over trivial and mundane things is just a waste of time and time is precious. We never get enough of it, so seriously, use it wisely. Once you get rid of all the minute things that trouble your mind, you will be happier and less stressed out. This includes people too. Don’t continue to give people chances if they don’t make the effort. If someone wants to be a part of your life, they will so stop saving room for people who don’t even put in the effort to stay. Declutter your mind. Put yourself first.
HATERS GON’ HATE
Seriously, you will get haters no matter what. I used to be so hung up on this and worry about why doesn’t X like me? and ask myself things like what do I need to change? I’ve come to learn that there will always be someone sippin’ on that haterade. LET THEM! It means you’re doing something right and hate is just a translation of jealousy. Don’t ever stop being true to yourself because someone else doesn’t like you. You are you. So you should do you and let them do them. Don’t let them phase you.
Once again: Mind OVER Matter
It’s a cruel world and some people are just nasty to the core. Sock em where it hurts! You just need to grow a thicker skin and don’t take words to heart. You are stronger than you think you are. It might take some practice, and it’ll hurt like hell, but soon you’ll be brushing off the opinions and judgments of those that don’t matter. It’s all about confidence. Once you have that, you’ll crush it. And it’ll kill them to know that they no longer phase you. Take bullies for example, once you show them their words or actions have no impact, you take away all their power.