Focusing On Myself | Nun Bangkok

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Pulling the reigns in. Gathering my thoughts, outlining my path, and taking a deep breath. The focus? Me.

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Focusing on myself.

The above statement is something that I’ve struggled with for the longest time, mainly because I’ve always put others before myself. It caused a strain – such a strain that I was buckling under the weight of trying to please everyone else meanwhile I could barely stand.

Not anymore.

It’s time to focus on myself because in the end, the only person I’m hurting is myself. Love starts within and so does happiness. Focusing on myself first will be the laying foundation for things to fall into place. Learned that the hard way.

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Certainly, focusing on oneself is not easy.

You’re literally walking a fine line, one that is commonly misunderstood as being selfish. But it’s okay to be selfish. As I mentioned previously inΒ 23 Things I’ve Learned by Age 23, you must learn to both put yourself first and to also always invest in yourself. If that means cutting out the toxic stuff, by all means drop that dead weight. In the long term, you’re much better off.

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What are my plans?

Focus: My well-being.

Both physically and mentally. In the physical aspect, I’ve started to become more conscious on my consumption by making healthier choices. More veggies and fruits, less carbs and sweets. I’ve also got myself back into the gym, carving the way into a daily routine. Sad note: my gym is located a block away from my house and I’ve found every excuse not to go. I finally stopped making excuses and have devoted myself to follow a 5 times a week schedule. I also challenged myself to do 100 squats a day. My goal is to lose 25 pounds. That may sound drastic, but you’d never guess my weight and if you know, you’d probably never believe it. Let’s just say it’s not a good number.

Mentally? I’ve been prepping myself to gradually wake up earlier and earlier (I’m currently at 6 am). I’ve cautioned myself to never hit the snooze button and to just get up when the alarm to reality chimes. It’s actually helped so, SO much. The snooze is detrimental to my functionality. I’ve created several hacks to make it easier to wake up: place my phone far away from me so I have to get up to shut the alarm, don’t hit snooze, and sleep with my shades open so the sun wakes me. A goal is to incorporate meditation at least once a week, but that’ll be a challenge. Too many swarming thoughts.

jenn hanft in a black and white outfit wearing nun bangkok and adidas superstars

Focus: Happiness and Growth

Everyone should have a goal to be happy. I haven’t put too much focus in this aspect, but now I’m going to put extra attention to all the things that make me happy. I will read more books, travel to more places, chase dreams, break out in dance, sing to the top of my lungs, laugh at stupid jokes, give more hugs, start intellectual conversations, spread kindness, and build empires.

Growth is something I will always reach for. I love learning and taking the necessary steps to become a better version of myself. The biggest goal is to pass my HR certification. I have 5 months to devote my time studying and I’m scared, but I will give it my all. Other ways I plan on challenging myself is to continue to do/try something new each month, become fluent in Mandarin (slowly but surely), continue to read the newspaper every morning, learn to code, write the book I’ve put off, and lastly give and do more.

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I’ve got my work cut out for me, eh? Focusing on myself won’t be an easy feat, but I’ll now be one step closer to sophrosyne. Just wanted to give you all a little update on what’s been going on in my head. And even though my main focus will be on me, it won’t mean that I will shut out everything and everyone else. I’m so grateful for my family, my friends, and for you. Having the best support system will only push me higher. Surround yourself with people that matter and most importantly, who have your best interests at heart. Know your self worth and never settle for anything less than.

with love jenn hanft

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  1. These goals are incredible, and so important. You know I’m with you when it comes to having struggles focusing on myself and being kind to myself. I gotta start working on these same things. My recent endeavor is learning to enjoy the mornings – a struggle since that’s the worst time for my stomach – but I’m slowly getting better at it! I know you can totally achieve these things, but never forget to take it easy on yourself. Even if you don’t reach those goals right away, it doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means you’re learning, and you will definitely get there. You’ve got this, girlfriend!

  2. It really is hard to please everyone, but I realized once I put more focus on myself, it all kind of falls in place. That’s great you are working on better and healthier lifestyle habits (6am though!!), and I’m very interested in this book you say you’ve put off. I also have a book I want to write but already put off for like… 5 years haha. always in the back of my mind though!

    1. Haha it’s a fiction YA with a dystopian genre! I put it on the backburner because I’m a perfectionist so I fell out of love on my concept. Hopefully I’ll be inspired soon enough to restart! I’ve put it off for a year haha yikes

  3. You make it sound like you’ve just began your journey into wellbeing, but I’d say you’ve come a long way hun! Just the 5 times a week workout schedule and the waking up early plan is more than I’m able to handle and then add all the goals and personal achievements you have in mind and you’re way ahead of me girl! One thing I’ve learned lately however is the importance of self appreciation and self worth. I AM somebody and I AM darn proud of it. As should you!

    1. Ah yes I have totally come to terms with self worth and appreciation though sometimes I find myself sucked back into the doubt and pessimism. I’m sure you can do anything you set your mind too! You’ve come such a long way as well!!

  4. I believe on focusing on yourself first and then working on everything else around you one at a time. I have to exercise first which is a major focus on myself. It really clears my mind, gives me energy and I can tackle the rest of the day with a clear mind.


  5. I think it is amazing that you are working on yourself and setting goals to make yourself happy. I absolutely believe that you cannot make others happy if you aren’t happy yourself. It always starts with you first and all of these steps and goals you have created are inspirational and attainable. I also love this athletic jumpsuit BTW. It is edgy and also chic and sporty. xoxo, Christine

  6. I continue to be so impressed with your journey of well-being and self-improvement. At your age, I don’t think I was as focused or even aware of the importance of mindfulness and taking care of oneself. Being your own best friend and putting yourself first really helps with one’s overall happiness. I don’t see it as being selfish at all. I’ve seen time and time again, if you’re not happy in your life and you hold resentment for feeling obligated to help someone else, then it will show through. In the end no one will be happy. Focusing on your own needs first is the first step to being strong enough to help others.

    xoxo, Jo

  7. Wow girl. This post is seriously so inspiring. I too have recently been going back to the gym and I love it! It is so interesting how make so many excuses, but once you get started it feels amazing.

  8. girl you look amazing! health is so important because without good health there is nothing else. so i’m really happy to hear that you are spending time to focus on yourself. this year ive definitely made some nice changes for myself and my body and going to the gym regularly or working out at home is definitely one of them! it feels amazing to incorporate this good habit into my life. i’m also trying to cut out junk food but that one’s a bit tougher. lol. baby steps right? πŸ˜‰ xo, sharon

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