Pulling the reigns in. Gathering my thoughts, outlining my path, and taking a deep breath. The focus? Me.
Focusing on myself.
The above statement is something that I’ve struggled with for the longest time, mainly because I’ve always put others before myself. It caused a strain – such a strain that I was buckling under the weight of trying to please everyone else meanwhile I could barely stand.
It’s time to focus on myself because in the end, the only person I’m hurting is myself. Love starts within and so does happiness. Focusing on myself first will be the laying foundation for things to fall into place. Learned that the hard way.
Certainly, focusing on oneself is not easy.
You’re literally walking a fine line, one that is commonly misunderstood as being selfish. But it’s okay to be selfish. As I mentioned previously in 23 Things I’ve Learned by Age 23, you must learn to both put yourself first and to also always invest in yourself. If that means cutting out the toxic stuff, by all means drop that dead weight. In the long term, you’re much better off.
What are my plans?
Focus: My well-being.
Both physically and mentally. In the physical aspect, I’ve started to become more conscious on my consumption by making healthier choices. More veggies and fruits, less carbs and sweets. I’ve also got myself back into the gym, carving the way into a daily routine. Sad note: my gym is located a block away from my house and I’ve found every excuse not to go. I finally stopped making excuses and have devoted myself to follow a 5 times a week schedule. I also challenged myself to do 100 squats a day. My goal is to lose 25 pounds. That may sound drastic, but you’d never guess my weight and if you know, you’d probably never believe it. Let’s just say it’s not a good number.
Mentally? I’ve been prepping myself to gradually wake up earlier and earlier (I’m currently at 6 am). I’ve cautioned myself to never hit the snooze button and to just get up when the alarm to reality chimes. It’s actually helped so, SO much. The snooze is detrimental to my functionality. I’ve created several hacks to make it easier to wake up: place my phone far away from me so I have to get up to shut the alarm, don’t hit snooze, and sleep with my shades open so the sun wakes me. A goal is to incorporate meditation at least once a week, but that’ll be a challenge. Too many swarming thoughts.
Focus: Happiness and Growth
Everyone should have a goal to be happy. I haven’t put too much focus in this aspect, but now I’m going to put extra attention to all the things that make me happy. I will read more books, travel to more places, chase dreams, break out in dance, sing to the top of my lungs, laugh at stupid jokes, give more hugs, start intellectual conversations, spread kindness, and build empires.
Growth is something I will always reach for. I love learning and taking the necessary steps to become a better version of myself. The biggest goal is to pass my HR certification. I have 5 months to devote my time studying and I’m scared, but I will give it my all. Other ways I plan on challenging myself is to continue to do/try something new each month, become fluent in Mandarin (slowly but surely), continue to read the newspaper every morning, learn to code, write the book I’ve put off, and lastly give and do more.
I’ve got my work cut out for me, eh? Focusing on myself won’t be an easy feat, but I’ll now be one step closer to sophrosyne. Just wanted to give you all a little update on what’s been going on in my head. And even though my main focus will be on me, it won’t mean that I will shut out everything and everyone else. I’m so grateful for my family, my friends, and for you. Having the best support system will only push me higher. Surround yourself with people that matter and most importantly, who have your best interests at heart. Know your self worth and never settle for anything less than.