Dear Self | A Letter Written to Future Me

I’ve always been fond of the idea of writing a letter to myself. Ideally, it would have been a letter to my younger self offering the advice and words of wisdom that present me wishes I could have known. Since that’s not really a logical possibility nor would it be helpful since, well, I’m “grown up” now, I thought how about a letter to my future self? Taking the idea of a time capsule, except instead of storing a handwritten letter inside an invincible treasure chest, I’d be storing it on the web. Well, here goes nothing…

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Dear Future Self,

How are you? It’s me. Well, I’m you. You from your early 20’s. I’m sure you’re sitting there like, “Wow. I really wrote this? How crazy! Why would I ever write a letter to myself?” And sure it may be crazy, but that’s me – well us. I’m still working out how to phrase it. But I figured, knowing us, you’d eventually want to look back and just reflect. It’s been a while, huh? I’m sure you’ve come a long way. You must only remember glimpses of me now. Glimpses of you. I wonder how different we must be, how much time has passed, and where you are.

I may not know what you’ve got going on, or what you’ve been through, but I do know one thing: you’re strong. And knowing us you must be smirking or laughing out loud at the comment, but you are. It took me a long time to realize that, and I’m sure you can recall how difficult it was to come to this realization. For the longest time, we were lost. Floating. We pretended to have strength, relied on no one, and took on more than we can handle. We fell. We broke. Then we got up. We learned. We moved forward.

jenn hanft wearing i feel nut blue dress discovered at tictail

I want you to know how terribly sorry I am for the way I treated us back then. I overworked us, fell into the hole of emotions, and became driven on things that didn’t matter. I forgot to live for us. Instead, I lived to please others, to meet expectations that were too high, to push us until we broke. And though the journey was long and tiring, I’ve finally learned. I managed to pick us back up and lean on the support of others. I slowly recognized our value, our self worth, and got us a step closer to sophrosyne. I taught us that it’s okay to be selfish, that we must love ourselves first, and that we must invest in ourself to become a better version. I hope all of my efforts gave you the right foundation to where you are now. For who you are now.

jenn hanft wearing i feel nut blue dress discovered at tictail

On my end, I promise to create as many memories as I can for us. I’m certainly aiming to cross a lot off our bucket list, especially before we become too old (hah to you!). I promise to keep learning, to never give up, to relax and let life run its course, and to smile more. I promise to spend more time creating moments and less time behind a screen. I hope that I stay true to these promises or at least try my very best to. Every experience helps shape us to who we are, however our mind and how we perceive each situation pushes us in the direction we wish to go.

I’m sure you know that we can’t control everything and sometimes plans fall apart. I know that we set a lot of plans for the future and I want you to know that I trust that even if some things did not go to plan, it’s okay. Things will always fall into place and everything happens for a reason. I’ll understand. And I hope you’ll go easy on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over things you don’t have control over. Make the best out of what we have. Always stay positive.

jenn hanft wearing i feel nut blue dress discovered at tictail

I may not know what the future holds, but I know what the present does and from what I see we’ve come such a long way already. I can only dream of what we will achieve in the future. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders and you’re stronger than you believe. Even though at times you may feel like you’re alone, you’re not. You have so many people around you that love you for every inch of your large heart and every detail of your flaws. You are an inspiration. You are an incredible being and it’s about time that you fully believe it. You will do amazing things, I’m positive. I believe in you and in us. Wherever you may be in life now, just know that younger you has always been rooting for you. I may have been your biggest critique, but I’ve also been your biggest fan.

With all my sincerest love and well wishes,

Your Younger Self

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  • Christine Kong
    July 17, 2017

    I love this. Plain and simple. And…it brought a few tears to my eyes. I’m not sure why. Maybe because I am a mom and can see myself writing this to my kids or vice versa or because I’ve been there in your shoes (not exactly, but at least in my 20’s). In any case, this post is inspiring. Self-love is so important and so is learning to get back up and fight. We are all stronger than we think, we just have to believe it and move on. You inspire me…even in your young 20 something mind to my 30 something mind. [insert heart emoji] xoxo, Christine

  • Mariann Yip
    July 17, 2017

    This is such a cool idea! I just remembered that when I was in high schooo they made us do that as a freshman and then we read the letter as a senior. It’s inevitable that we all grow and it’s nice to see that you’ve acknowledged that. I also think your photos match perfectly with the message so thanks for sharing babes!

  • Moon
    July 17, 2017

    I actually made one of these letter and I really enjoyed reading it years later ! Anyway, yours was really beautiful !

  • Jessie
    July 18, 2017

    I love the item of writing yourself a letter. Actually in the ideal world, I would love to time travel back in time and un-do some of the my mistakes, or re-chose the path that had led to my current life. Guess there is no re-dos and make-overs in life so we just need to keep looking forward and try our best so we will have less regrets in future =)

    Thanks for such an inspirational piece girl!

    xx, Jessie

  • Sharon Wu
    July 18, 2017

    What a beautiful post babe! I actually thought of doing something similar especially after flipping through old yearbooks not too long ago LOL. I think it’s really cool to write yourself a letter reflecting on past years and then coming back to read it again several years later to see how much you’ve grown! 🙂 xo, sharon

  • Thomas Falkenstedt
    July 18, 2017

    What a beautiful letter to both your future self and basically a note to your current self. You HAVE gone through a lot, but you have also already come out of it stronger and you ARE strong as heck! You’re also open about it and very vulnerable at times, but we, your readers are here for you, just like you are for your future self and your future self is for you. This is really therapeutic and I think I should do something like this as well. To Thomas past, present and future. Thank you, Jenn!

  • Candace
    July 18, 2017

    This is actually a really great idea! I totally forgot where I buried my time capsule, so that’s no good. I think you may have inspired me to write a post to my future self. It’ll be nice to read a few years in the future to see where my head was 🙂

  • Gracie
    July 18, 2017

    What a beautiful idea of writing a letter to yourself. I am getting ready to go to college so you have given me a great idea for the best time for me to write one to myself. Really enjoyed this idea.


  • Bernice
    July 20, 2017

    This was so beautiful! I loved reading your journey to become yourself, and future you will be happy through your trials and tribulations you perservered. At what age do you think you’ll want to look back to read this?

  • Henry
    July 20, 2017

    It looks like a peaceful surrounding. Nice style 🙂

  • Jo
    July 20, 2017

    Beautiful post, babe! I love this idea of writing to yourself. What a great way to find self-acceptance and self-love, plus I’m sure this will be really cool to revisit many years after you’ve written it. I also love these photos of you. They look so full of freedom and joy.

    xo, Jo

  • Samantha Mariko
    July 21, 2017

    This is a beautifully written letter to your future self, Jenn 🙂 I’ve read plenty of “Dear Me” letters to a younger self, but as you said it is a bit pointless… I’m sure you in the next couple of years will enjoy reading this letter, reminiscing some fond memories 🙂

  • Kara Aragon
    July 23, 2017

    Beautifully written. The photos couldn’t be more perfect with this post. So free & beautiful!

    Kara Aragon

  • marcy
    July 25, 2017

    You have the most inspiring post ever babe!!! For sure one of my favourites bloggers I look forward for reading. Love the future note to yourself along with these beautiful pictures.


  • Kris
    July 25, 2017

    This is such a nice post idea! So honest and inspirational!

    Have a lovely day!
    xx Kris

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