The first step to achieving a state of sophrosyne: Being OK with who you are.
You need to be OK with who you are and what you are. Your opinion makes the most difference. Don’t ever beat yourself up for not fitting in, being weird, or being an awkward turtle. It’s OK to stand out, weird is the new cool, and awkward moments sometimes make great stories. You wield the pen of your story and you should love what you write.
Focusing on the fyner things in life.
Keyword on “fyner” things. OK, obviously the spelling on this sticker is incorrect, but it allows you to pay closer detail as well as to take notice. You don’t need to focus on everything in life, because that just prevents you from going anywhere far. I used to stumble on every little detail and that had me completely overstressed and miserable. I was stuck in the past. Pick and choose your battles. Don’t put too much unnecessary focus on the minuscule details, but rather focus more on the things that matter most to you. Plus, remember to take things with a grain of salt; hence the wacky spelling. It’s OK to have a little fun. Don’t take everything so seriously.
It’s OK to hit pause.
Trust me. You guys already know my severe cases of going MIA and falling into a hole. I get it, completely. There are just some days that suck and well…it sucks to suck. But don’t feel like it’s not OK to have feelings. We’re all human. What goes up must come down. We wouldn’t know happiness until we know sadness. Light wouldn’t exist without darkness. So don’t stress. Hit pause, relax, rejuvenate, and restart.
It’s OK to like something someone else doesn’t.
To be perfectly honest, I was testing out these new frames from Warby Parker (via home try-on) because I’ve been dying to get my hands on some clear beauties. I actually discovered these through Soothingsista’s January Favorites Video and was super happy because my current frames are Warby Parker and I love them! The best part of these frames are that they are made to fit a wider face, non-existent nose bridge and are angled differently so they don’t hit one’s cheeks. All my asians out there can feel the pain on this one! The constant issue of pushing my glasses up is now solved!
I absolutely love them and can’t wait to get them once I re-examine my eyes. My vision unfortunately got worse so I need to get a stronger prescription. Anyway, I asked my mom’s opinion and she did not like these frames at all. She claimed that they’re weird and questionable. I got a little offended, but after much learned experience I let it go because I’ve learned you can’t please everyone so don’t sacrifice your happiness for someone else’s approval. It’s just not worth it.
It’s OK to step out of your comfort zone.
Y’all know that I typically stick to a monochromatic theme. I do love color, don’t get me wrong, but it just depends. Yellow is certainly one of the colors that I never wear, just because I feel like I can’t rock it. But when I saw this top, I knew I wanted it. Even though the color wasn’t to my liking, the words spoke to me and gave me the courage to live a little. Sure, I dressed it up in black and threw on a typical go-to: Adidas Superstars. Either way, it felt different to me. I had a bold message on my shirt, and I stood in front of a bold message on the street. I actually laughed to myself when I saw this garage door. It worked perfectly with my outfit and I kept thinking in my head black and yellow, black and yellow, black and yellow.
Last but not least, I am what I am and it’s OK.
Always be comfortable in your own skin. Worry less, live more. If you like to hang indoors and potato instead of staying out late, do it. If you like to drinking tea instead of coffee, so be it. Don’t subject yourself to others opinions and don’t let their judgment draft your next decision. You are who you are and if someone can’t accept that, they don’t deserve to.
I’m content with who I am. I may not know 100% of myself, but that’s life’s discovery. I’m always pushing myself to learn more, complain less, and just grow. Inches for miles.