Oh hi there! Damn, I apologize for being absent yet again. I’ve just been going through a lot of things these past few weeks. Between celebrating my boyfriend’s birthday (happy 24 to him), getting sick and trying to survive, turning another year older myself (hello 23, on May 30th in case you were wondering), celebrating my 6th anniversary (has it really been that long?!) and welcoming my family to NYC as they visited from Taiwan, I’d say I had a lot of things going on.
I can’t wait to share with you what I’ve learned.
I’ve been meaning to write 23 lessons learned by age 23, since it’s only fitting. Unfortunately, as you may have noticed, life got in the way. Better late than never, huh?
In no particular order:
- Love yourself. Know your self-worth. Put yourself first and the rest will fall into place.
- Do what you love and never think twice.
- Stop focusing on what you lack and focus on what you have.
- Unplug. Breathe. Don’t apologize. The world stops for no one so why shouldn’t you enjoy freedom?
- Let go of grudges. It’s not worth the precious time you have.
- You are your own problem and your own enemy. Don’t let yourself stand in your own way.
- Things change and people leave. Don’t stress about things that you have no control over.
- Relationships are a two way street. You get what you give, but you should also realize when you’re the only one holding the weight – that is unacceptable. Cut off the deadweight and the baggage. They’re only holding you back. Once you let go, you’ll feel much better.
- Appreciate the small things, because they make the biggest difference. Little details matter.
- Plans are good. Heck, I love a good concrete plan, but don’t fall apart when things fall off course. Keep trekking. Sometimes the best things occur when you don’t plan them to.
- Travel more. You see more, learn more, and open your mind to everything in a new light. Expand your horizons, mark places off your bucket list, explore, and just grow.
- Be direct. Eliminate the miscommunications and misunderstandings by being straight forward, but also be kind. Everyone has a story and no one is a mind reader. Stop the run around and get straight to the chase. Relationships build and mend much faster.
- Pave your own way and find yourself. We live in a society were conformity is encouraged. There’s no reason you should mold yourself to fit a new trend or another person’s expectations. Be you.
- Dream, but take action. You can wish for something to happen, but it never will if you don’t put the work in. Hard work pays off, trust me.
- Never be scared of rejection. The worst that can happen is they tell you no. Go for it, full force. At least you tried.
- Invest in yourself. Always.
- Confidence is key. When you look good, you feel good. When you believe in yourself, you’ll turn heads.
- Letting emotions surface is not a bad thing. You are human. We make mistakes, we cry, we scream, we break things. We also get back up, we smile, we create memories, and we live.
- People watch. You get a better idea of life in motion, see glimpses of other’s stories, witness key moments, and just appreciate the present.
- Start and end each day with a note of gratitude. It can be anything as big as a life milestone or as small as appreciating the opportunity to breathe another breath.
- Life has a funny way of working and I believe everything happens for a reason. It may suck at times, but just go with it. Light exists because of the dark. If you hit rock bottom, the only thing left is up. Things will always get better and you’ll always find a way to work it out.
- Spend less time on your phone and more time living. Appreciate life as time passes quicker than you’d like. Every day, we get a bit older. Take pictures, capture videos, store memories and tell stories. Instead of seeking for the meaning of life, go out there, live, and give life meaning.
- Family is everything. It’s more than blood. Family is taking the shirt off your back because they’re in need. It’s giving your 500% into anything and everything to protect and care for them. Traveling around the world just to see them. Pushing yourself to learn the language just to communicate with them. Crying your eyes out when it’s time to say goodbye, even though you know it’ll only be temporary. I love my family and would give everything for them. They are my heart. They are my air. I would be nothing without them and I am so, so thankful.